As we talked about before, your comfort zone is yours. Something that absolutely frightens me might be easy peasy for you and vice versa. That’s why I now present to you three levels of comfort zones and things to cross of your list of “I can’t believe I just did that”. In which category are you?


Being a beginner is not a bad thing, it just means you have a lot to look forward to! If you haven’t challenged yourself in a long while, it’s likely that you are in this category.

  • Move away from your hometown
  • Travel to a neighbouring country
  • Talk to a stranger online
  • Attend a meetup
  • Workout in a place you’re not used to (the gym/the park)
  • Go out without makeup
  • Have a presentation at work/school
  • Call an old friend you haven’t met for years
  • Eat in a restaurant by yourself
  • Go out on the dancefloor and give it your all
  • Speak up during class or a meeting
  • Try a clothing style you would never wear normally
  • Learn a new language and don’t be afraid to talk with someone in that new language
  • Contact someone you look up to and ask for advice
  • Make the first move on someone you find attractive


Can you already cross of everything in the beginners list? Here are 15 new things you might want to overcome.

  • Move abroad
  • Travel to another continent
  • Invite a person you met online on a (friend) date
  • Find someone at a meetup you click with and ask to hang out later
  • Try a completely new sport (check here for ideas)
  • Color your hair in an unexpected color
  • Have a speech at a party
  • Find a new friend at work/school or at your hobby
  • Go out for a whole day by yourself (have brunch, go to a museum, go shopping, go to the cinema..)
  • Be the first one on the dancefloor and own it
  • Be the chairman of a meeting
  • The next time you are invited for a themed party, go all in on the costume
  • Move to another country for a while to learn the language (e.g. as an au pair)
  • Join a mentor programme
  • Ask someone you have a crush on out on a date


You really have come a long way. However, there are always things you can do to push yourself, even when you feel like you are comfortable in most situations.

  • Move to another continent
  • Travel around the world
  • Create an online community
  • Host a meetup group
  • Get a teacher certificate for the sport you enjoy the most
  • Let your hairdresser do whatever they want with your hair
  • Have a lecture or motivational speech in front a huge audience
  • Find a friend in an unexpected place, e.g. start talking with someone sitting next to you in the bus or airplane
  • Go on a solotrip
  • Perform on a stage in front of an audience
  • Be the chairman of an organization
  • Go to a comic con and dress up as your favourite character
  • Teach your language to others
  • Be a mentor for someone else
  • Host your wedding or a big party to celebrate your love to your partner

Have you done everything on the list? Are you scared of doing any of the things mentioned?